Episodes

How do you navigate conversations about sexuality and identity without letting fear, politics, or the pressure to have all the answers get in the way of loving people well?

This week, Juli sits down with Laurence Koo to talk about why questions of identity can feel so overwhelming, and how you can walk alongside someone even when you don't have all the answers. They also challenge the way we think about the "culture wars," explore what it means to see sexuality through the lens of the gospel, a...

What if God isn't asking you to fix every feeling before you come to Him? What if you could bring Him your anxiety, your frustration, your insecurity—even the parts of yourself you wish weren't there?

This week, Juli's talking with Dr. Alison Cook about learning to notice what's happening inside us without immediately judging, fixing, or shaming our inner thoughts. Plus, you'll hear how understanding our own inner world can change the way we show up in marriage, parenting, and our relationship ...

How much have you already thought about your body today?


For many of us, the answer is… a lot. This week, we're talking about the ways body image can quietly shape our mornings, our marriages, our dating lives, our parenting, and the things we're willing to do.


What if our bodies were meant to give us freedom, not keep us stuck?


Guests: Hannah Nitz & Val O'Brien


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Being Sexy Has Nothing To Do with Your Body by Juli Slattery (blog)


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This week, Juli's answering your real questions about sex. Here's what's in the line up:

"What do I do if I don't find my husband attractive?"

"Before marriage, I thought I was dying for sex. Now, it's a chore. Why?"

"I've never had an orgasm and I don't care. Is that wrong?"

"Is it wrong to please myself if my husband can't do it?"

"How does sex point us to God?"

"How do I seduce my wife?"

"What do you do if your spouse decides they "don't actually need" sex?"

"Nothing is off limits. No...

Have you ever found out that a Christian leader you trusted had a major moral or sexual failure…and suddenly wondered, What am I supposed to do with everything they taught me?

Can I still read their books?
Can I trust what I learned?
Does this mean I could fall too?
This week, we get honest about what happens when someone who shaped your faith falls, and how to remember that Jesus—not our favorite pastor, author, or teacher—is the one we ultimately follow.

Guests: Hannah Nitz, Josiah Bogue

Fo...

Sex is never just about sex. That’s why simple conversations about it can bring up shame, rejection, past wounds, and seriously different expectations. In this classic Java with Juli conversation with the late Dr. Doug Rosenau, he and Juli talk about why couples need more than a shared bedroom—they need a shared language.



You’ll learn how to:
• Talk about sex when it feels awkward
• Create words that feel safe and meaningful to both of you
• Know what to do when a word or request becomes tri...

What if the question your teenager is asking isn’t really the question they need you to answer?

This week, we’re talking with Val O’Brien of the 10,000 Questions Project about what she’s learned from collecting thousands of questions from teens. And here’s the surprising part: some of the hardest questions about sex and God are really questions about pain. Instead of jumping straight to an answer, what would happen if we got curious? Asked another question?

Sometimes the most important thing a...

What happens when a pastor has no accountability?

Or when scripture is used to justify sexual abuse within marraige?

When mental health problems are overlooked?

Netflix’s Death of the Pastor’s Wife raises some hard questions—and they’re questions the church can’t afford to shy away from. So we’re talking about them.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

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Ep. #319: Is Good Sex a "Right" in Marriage?
Video Q&A: We Have Sex Regularly But My Spouse Isn't Satisfied. What Do I Do?
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We're taking a break for Labor Day Weekend and we hope you'll get some rest too. In the meantime, check out these popular episodes from this year:
#595 4 Lies We Believe About Sex
#603 5 Ways to Navigate Differences & Build a Stronger Marriage
#612 How Your Story Shapes the Way You Approach Sex & Intimacy

We'll be back right here next week. See you then!

We all do it—the little “tests” we give our spouses without ever telling them they’re being tested.

Will he notice? Will she remember? Does he even see me? Does she even care?
Maybe it’s the party we planned, the extra hours we put in at work, or that new haircut or dress we’re hoping they’ll notice. We put in the effort…and then quietly wait to see if they pass the test.

And when they don’t? Well, let’s just say it doesn’t always go the way we hoped.

So why do we do this? And is there a bett...

Your sex life shouldn't be the one area of marriage you never discuss.

It's awkward—we get it. And you probably don't think talking about it will help. But research shows that talking about sex is strongly associated with a more thriving sex life. So, how do you actually have the conversation?

This week, Juli walks through five conversations couples should be having about sex. If you've ever thought, “We should probably talk about this…” this episode is for you.

Co-hosts: Hannah Nitz & Josiah...

What do you do when your child tells you something that changes everything?

What constitutes abuse? And, when should you report it?

This week, Juli sits down with trauma expert Dr. Debi Grebenik to talk about how parents can respond when a child has experienced sexual abuse. They discuss what signs to watch for, how trauma affects children, why empathy is more powerful than panic, and how parents can protect their kids while raising them with confidence—not fear.

Guest: Dr. Debi Grebenik

Fol...

After eight weeks away, Juli is back—and she's sharing what really happened on her sabbatical.

This week, Juli opens her journal and shares the biggest lessons God taught her about burnout, rest, leadership, and learning to live within the limits He designed for us. We also talk about why so many of us struggle to slow down, how Sabbath is more than a day off, and what it looks like to build rhythms of rest into everyday life.

Plus, you’ll get a first look at an exciting new vision for Authent...

This week, Juli and her husband, Mike, share lessons they've learned about navigating disagreements, understanding each other's perspectives, avoiding manipulation, and seeking God's wisdom together.

Whether you're newly married or decades into your relationship, this conversation will encourage you to build healthier patterns for making decisions as a team.

Follow-up Resources:

Java #603 5 Ways to Navigate Differences & Build a Stronger Marrige with Juli & Mike Slattery

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When you're on the brink of divorce, could separation save your marriage?

This week, Juli sits down with Dr. Gary Chapman to hear how intentional separation can be an act of love rather than a sign of giving up. You’ll learn when separation may be appropriate, why outside counsel matters, and how hope can be rekindled (even in relationships that seem beyond repair).

Whether you're personally facing a difficult marriage or walking alongside someone who is, this conversation offers wisdom, pract...

Great sex doesn’t happen by accident.

It takes intentionality. This week, Juli shares four habits of couples who pursue sexual intimacy over a lifetime. From the busy years of raising children to the mundane of everyday life, navigating aging and redefining intimacy over time, they explore how you can pursue deeper connection through every stage of marriage.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

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Why does dating feel so much harder than it used to? Is marriage even still worth it?

This week, Juli and Dr. Brad Wilcox dive into the realities of modern dating, offering practical advice for navigating relationships with wisdom and confidence. They discuss everything from fear of commitment and unrealistic expectations to the importance of community, character, and shared faith.

If you've ever wondered how to navigate today's dating culture, this conversation is for you.

Guest: Dr. Brad Wi...

The language of sexuality is changing rapidly, and many parents, pastors, and mentors feel overwhelmed trying to keep up.

This week, Juli talks with Dr. Julia Sadusky about what's driving these changes, why so many young people are exploring new identity labels, and why you don’t have to toss your convictions out the window in order to stay connected to your kids.

Guest: Dr. Julia Sadusky
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What messages have you been told about your body and your sexuality?

This week, Juli sits down with her friends Dawn Jones and Danisa Suarez for a candid conversation about the unique experiences of Black, Latino, and White women when it comes to the messages they received about their sexuality. They touch on topics like body image, beauty standards, shame, and the pressure women feel to either hide or flaunt their sexuality.

Guests: Dawn Jones, LPC-S & Danisa Suarez, LPC, CST
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What if the challenges in your sex life have less to do with sex and more to do with your story?

This week, Juli talks with attachment expert Marc Cameron about how our earliest relationships shape the way we approach dating, marriage, and sexual intimacy. Whether you're struggling with emotional distance, differences in desire, recurring conflict, or simply want a deeper understanding of yourself and your spouse, this conversation is for you.

Guest: Marc Cameron, MA, LMFT
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Juli sits down with bestselling author Gary Thomas for a conversation about some of the subtle lies Christians often believe without even realizing it. They’re tackling tough questions , like:

Can family become an idol?

Why do we still struggle with sin after coming to Christ?

And what happens when loneliness and isolation become our normal?

While this conversation isn't specifically about sexuality, how we answer these questions shapes the way we approach our relationships. Join us to explo...

If you grew up in church in the 90s or early 2000s, you probably received some confusing messages about sex and desire. This week, Juli and Hannah unpack how those messages shaped our understanding of sexuality and purity—and why so many Christians still struggle to say “yes, yes, yes” after years of “no, no, no.”

This conversation will remind you that God is not ashamed of your sexuality and invite you into healing, wholeness, and the truth about your sexuality.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

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This week, Juli, Hannah, and Joe answer one of the hardest questions many of us face: What do I do if my spouse is looking at porn?
This conversation is honest, compassionate, and full of hope. We talk through the pain, shame, confusion, and secrecy that pornography often brings into a marriage—and why healing is still possible for both the person struggling and the spouse who feels hurt and betrayed.

You’ll hear practical wisdom on how to find the support you need, why you can’t be your spouse...

This week, Dannah Gresh shares the personal story behind And the Bride Wore White—one of a few books that launched conversations about purity, shame, grace, and redemption for an entire generation of Christian young people. Together, Juli and Dannah reflect on the wounds many women carry around sexuality, the beauty of God’s forgiveness, and why purity was never meant to be about perfection.

Guest: Dannah Gresh
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